When you board a plane, a flight attendant will provide some good advice: in the event of an emergency, put your oxygen mask on first, before you try to help anyone else. Divorce can feel like a bit of an emergency, and the flight attendant’s advice might be helpful to remember. Put the oxygen mask on! You can’t care for anyone or anything if you aren’t taking care of yourself.

Why would successful divorce lawyers coach? Believe it or not, most lawyers, like most people, just want to help. For us, divorce coaching is an energizing way to help clients navigate and thrive in a process filled with real life challenges.

It’s totally normal to cling to what you think you know when you are threatened and divorcing. That instinct to dig in and prove a point is a hard-wired survival mechanism. It’s an instinct to be aware of in the divorce process because it can lead you into conflicts that don’t ultimately serve you.