You don’t have to be right

It’s totally normal to cling to what you think you know when you are threatened and divorcing.

That instinct to dig in and prove a point is a hard-wired survival mechanism. It’s an instinct to be aware of in the divorce process because it can lead you into conflicts that don’t ultimately serve you.

There is a lot to be gained by seeking some detachment from those things you think you know in divorce. What if you regarded your divorce as something to learn from, and not something happening to you? How would you feel if you gave up the need to be right for a moment, just to be present for yourself or someone you love? What would you lose by exercising a little curiosity around the events in your life that have led you to this post?

People that surrender the need to be “right” in divorce meet a lot less resistance in the process. They conserve their time, money and energy for things that really matter. They recover quicker and discover new purposes in life.

People that have to be “right” in the divorce process are defensive. As a result, they meet a lot of resistance. They are easily drawn into fights they can’t afford and won’t easily recover from. They show up on the docket every day.

Getting some coaching around a commitment to curiosity will help you find some ease at a time when other people are struggling to be “right.”